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Curious: You are thoughtful. You have questions about yourself, your life path, and the world around you. You are not turned on by superficial, surface-level conversation; you like to go deeper.

Conscious: You are self-aware. You see yourself as a constant, ever-evolving work in progress. You enjoy thinking and talking about ideas and various ways of being. You might describe yourself as “spiritual” or simply “open”.

Creative: You like to engage with the world around you. You believe life is an interactive, participatory experience. You see yourself as being of value and having a unique purpose.

Committed: You are a woman or man of your word. When you commit to something, you see it through.

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 Arguably the biggest shift one can make relationship-wise is to stop seeing heartache or heartbreak as pure loss. Does it hurt? Of course. Do we hate it? Typically. Can it still be profoundly helpful? HELL YES. You will be forced to root into new stories and beliefs about yourself. You'll have to revise your priorities and chart a new course. You'll need to face and be with yourself (something many of us use relationships to avoid) in a deeply intimate, uncomfortable, but important new way. My biggest breakthroughs and major life changes have always come on the other side of being absolutely railroaded and screwed in some capacity. I didn't ask for the hurt, but I got heaps of it. And while gratitude and learning might be a lot to reach for right away, eventually seeing how that loss or pain paved the way for new greatness is fucking magical. I don't know how else to describe it. It's up to you. You get to choose. All bad? Or is something potentially positive going to come out of the wreckage? Choose the latter. It usually feels better. Just sayin'. #nomudnolotus #youknowthis #yes   Waaaaay too real/inappropriate/ridiculous to not share.  Shout out to anyone else who has a pretty INTENSE relationship with their emotional side...just know you're in good company! #allthefeels  I've always had a flare for the over-dramatic. In relationships of yester-year I used to pick fights, stir up unnecessary drama, find little ways to pick and poke and prod my partner to get a reaction. It was UGLY. And UNFAIR. And I was totally blind to it. Then a really wonderful guy called me on it. A lot. And told me he loved me but wasn't willing to put up with my BS if I wasn't willing to work on it. So I got into therapy ( for good therapy) and started reeeeeally looking at myself. Noticing my habits, my patterns, my cues, examining why I liked being a bitch sometimes to the people I love the most. Taking ownership instead of passing the buck, or letting it continue to play out. That relationship ultimately ended but it was MASSIVELY healing for me. It forced me to look at the most confused, backwards, ugly parts of myself and rewire that shit. Now I cant believe there were moments where I would purposefully push another's buttons just to get a rise out of him and maybe guarantee some extra (albeit unhealthy) attention. I used to get embarrassed about those habits, but now I feel like a boss for working through it and saying YES to awareness and growth. Because noticing what you're doing that's getting in the way of the life you want, and the things you want, and the person you want to be, is HARD but SO IMPORTANT. And relationships are one area that will really shine a flashlight on all of your flaws and insecurities, so don't ignore what comes up for you. If you catch yourself (or you're lucky enough to have someone else lovingly catch you) playing into bad habits, get curious. Don't condemn yourself, or continue the cycle. But notice. And start working on it, either on your own or with a trusted professional. This is how change happens. This is how good stuff gets going. And old, stupid, tired BS gets kicked to the curb. I promise you--it's worth it.  TRUTH TRUTH TRUTH TRUTH TRUTH TRUTH . Happy Friday, you lovely weirdos.  We might love the black and white idea of choices breaking up into neat 'n clean little piles of HELL YES's and HELL NO's...but life is anything but black and white--have you noticed? If I only said yes to the stuff I felt 100%, HELL YES on-board with in my life (whether it be in love, in business, in what to eat for dinner some nights), I'd be a fucking sitting duck. I'd be twiddling my thumbs instead of making the necessary decisions and moving forward even though I wasn't completely sure. Sometimes a HELL MAYBE needs to be enough. Sometimes just feeling a slight tug to move in a new direction, or the tiniest inkling that you should maaaaybe give that thing/person/experience a try....sometimes that's all that you're gonna get. And it's ok to not be sure, and choose anyway. It's fine to remember that you're allowed to roll the dice, you're allowed to take the risk, you're allowed to change your mind, to make mistakes and recover and reroute. That is LIFE. Investing in the small-minded principle that there are designated goods and bads, rights and wrongs, hell yes's and no's--that's a tough spot to be in babe. I don't find that life shows up in that way for most of us. So if you've been waiting for a lightning bolt of HELL YES to come crashing through the clouds so you can finally give yourself permission to make that decision and move forward, keep waiting. But if you just need some permission to move forward anyway, without being 100% sure, it's yours. 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And to whitewash yourself or hold back because you're worried about it being okay with everyone is really exhausting, and a complete slap in the face to the person you are becoming. You have to decide what works for you. You have to choose things, people, identities, and clothes that really resonate with you, and own that it's not your job to get anyone but you on board with the shape your life is taking. Not. Your. Job. This is seldom easy but often necessary. Trust that the ones who truly love you will find a way to preserve your relationship and make it work. Thankfully, my mom did. F-bombs and all. #imlucky #lovemymom #sorryforsayingfuckallthetime ❤️  TONIGHT TONIGHT TONIGHT. I'll be going live right here on IG to talk through all the weird, wacky feelings that often come up as a result of Valentine's Day. Then I'm answering all of the questions. And by "all" I mean "most" slash "the really good ones".  So bring your BEST Q's and an open heart tonight at 5:30 pm PST / 8:30 pm EST. I'm sooooo exciiiiited!!! ❤️  I get pissed off at the vast amount of internet propaganda pushing everyone to quit their jobs and live their dreams. Internet culture and stupidly simplistic advice like "LIVE YOUR PASSION! JUST DO IT! SWOOSH!!" has bullied so many into feeling like they're cowardly, weak, sell-outs for sticking to a 9-to-5 or maintaining a hobby or passion without turning it into a profitable existence. My passion and hobby became my profitable existence and of course - it's really fucking cool, but everyday ain't magical sunshine daisies and rainbows. There are moments and days where I genuinely miss waiting tables or working an espresso bar. For various reasons. I witness so many wonderful, smart people creating PAIN for themselves because they feel like they should be out there living some other life that's much more exciting or adventurous or daring or bold than the one they currently have. And there is time for that, beautiful, but do not forsake the life you are living now for a fantasy of what "should be". What should be is right in front of you. Your current reality is what should be - so you can either make peace with it or use it as rocket fuel to propel you to what's next. It's okay to want more for yourself, but not at the cost of diminishing or despising what you already have. And you aren't a loser for wanting health insurance, stability, or a 401k. I don't care what any wanderlusting, wildly successful digital nomad says on HuffPo. You're perfectly fine and okay where you are. Breathe into that one. We all need to hear it (and really believe it) a little more often.  Remember my "1 Word for 2017" video? Today I'm completely living into mine: CHERISH. I'm making this year about doing things and feeling things and appreciating things completely for however long I get to have them in my experience. Tonight I decided to buy some flowers inspired by a bouquet my beautiful soul friend @mbakerwellness shared online (ps. she's amazing). I might normally shrug off this kind of purchase, labeling it "impractical" or "unnecessary". But damn, I'm cherishing the shit out of this arrangement right now. And now I get to go cherish some dinner, and then cherish an at-home pedicure, followed by catching some seriously cherished Zzz's. Big or small, we deserve to have and do and feel nice things.  What's something you can take a moment to cherish from today?  Even the things you think make you ugly are precious treasures. And treasure ain't ugly. #ownit #loveit #hellyes #happysunday   Growing and evolving and learning and becoming and all of's never over, is it? This is great news and sometimes annoying news, which is why I just put up a video (on my YouTubes) talking about how we don't always have to WORK SO HARD at this stuff. 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Xoxo

3 Simple Practices for Honing, Owning, and Cultivating White-Hot Resilience

3 Simple Practices for Honing, Owning, and Cultivating White-Hot Resilience

Latest video on resilience, and why it’s a big old key to taking more risks in life–romantically and otherwise. Not necessary viewing per sé, but click the link and watch anyway!

Like most things we “should” work on within ourselves (y’know, the usual well-intended stuff like self-love, finding your passion, and the ability to stop hitting “snooze” eventually…), experts are quick to share the benefits of these inner gifts, but often aren’t great at sharing the nitty-gritty, practical, day-to-day “how-to” details.


Mostly ’cause I’m not an expert at all, I just know what’s worked for me and dozens of clients I’ve worked with who crave more adventure, reward, and overall sense of badassery in their daily lives. We’re talkin’ MEGA, capital-R, Resilience! YEEHAW!!

Here are three simple practices for increasing how truly capable, courageous, and “CAN’T TOUCH THIS” you are.


Y’all, this journey through life can be describe in many ways. And one of them is HARD.

We have all known pain and hurt, we have all experienced sorrow, doubt, confusion, and perhaps even existential dread.

And we have all surviiiiiived.

Take note (like with actual pen & paper) of everything you have already overcome in your time on planet earth, and start giving yourself the much over-due credit. Here’s some fun examples:

  1. Being born! Coming out of a vagina is scary, y’all!
  2. High school! Seriously horrific stuff!
  3. Your first yoga class! Who knew downward dog could be THAT hard?!
  4. Your ex-boyfriend’s new girlfriend and her cute bubble-butt friends bumping into you at the gym when you looked insanely haggard and sweaty!
  5. Your ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend showing up at that party unexpectedly and you having to act super cool even though you wanted to cry ‘n die on the inside!

Instead of being ashamed of the tough shit you’ve had to face and fumble through, how about patting yourself on the back for all the ways in which you continued to venture forth, even when everything completely sucked?

If you can begin to feel empowered through hard times, you’ll begin to look forward to hard times, knowing that no matter what you’re completely safe, secure, and can get through anything. Taking stock of your own survival skills is a fabulous way to turbo-charge resilience.


Looking for “Evidence of Resilience” in your daily life is an awesome, ongoing way to feel like a brave, strong, soul who will always land on her feet.

Find an empty vessel (a recycled tissue box, mason jar, or special keepsake container) and each day take a few moments to recall any tough or painful moments that you managed to wiggle your way through. Write it down on a post-it or strip of paper, and drop it in the box.

Stuff like, “Woke up in a funk, managed to take a shower and get to work on time,” is a WIN. So is “Family decision to put down our cat,” as well as, “Insanely stressful meeting with Carole from HR.”

Most folks who don’t see themselves as inherently resilient are very strong, resourceful, creative, and high-functioning. The issue is that they don’t actually notice how strong, resource, creative, and high-functioning they are.

This exercise is designed to clue you into how many small (or huge) struggles you might be facing on a daily basis, and how you manage to navigate them with a steadfast heart, or at least a willingness to put one damn foot in front of the other.

Let your vessel for daily wins serve as a physical reminder of your own ever-present resilience. When you feel weak or risk-averse, glance over and remember WHAT A BOSS YOU ACTUALLY ARE.


How skilled are you at taking life’s sourest lemons and turning them into beautiful, delectable, resilience-fueled LEMONAAADE?

Do you tend to sit in your pile of lemons and proclaim, “Woe is me!”?  Or do you find ways to sweeten that shit by learning, growing, and even offering gratitude for that which has pained you, but has also made you strong as a mothereffin ox, sweetheart.

Highly resilient individuals manage to find silver linings and golden nuggets of wisdom in ALL of their experiences. Even the really shitty, awful, sucky stuff.

When you can readily convert your pain into a platform for learning, pain becomes a veritable blessing.

And of course, yes, duh–I know that life-lemons and pain suck, and it’s hard to legitimately feel like it’s ever a good thing when you’re fucking going through it, but I’m just saying that pain is a GIVEN so we gotta find a way to work with it.

And looking for the learning, treating your trials and tribulations like gifts, figuring out how getting stood up on prom night has actually helped you be amazing and awesome, is a wonderful way to work through pain and begin viewing yourself as endlessly rad and resilient AF.

You, my buttercup babe, are a veritable rock star! Can you start owning that? Can you increase your overall sense of resilience? Can you dedicate some time and effort to noticing how much you slay, instead of how much you suck?

PRETTY PLEASE MAKE ALL OF THIS A PRIORITY. Find ways to take stock of your own survival, begin to notice your everyday triumphs, and always reach for the lemonade of learning. This is how you grow. This is how you help yourself through hard times. This is how you begin to see that big scary goal you want to accomplish as not so big and scary at all…

Because you and I both know that you’ve seen, felt, and experienced some shitty shit. And you made it. You continue to make it. You’re ever-evolving and always onto the next thing, continue to live and breathe and learn and figure all of this out, even when you feel like throwing the towel in. The towel need not be thrown, unless it’s back in the ring for the next round.

You got this, you’ve always had this–that’s the truth. Start seeing it that way.

  • Mia Asante
    Posted at 20:49h, 06 February Reply

    Amy, you are amazing, very important topic !! <3

  • Cortney
    Posted at 02:00h, 10 February Reply

    Holy balls, did I need this!!! You always seem to come through in the clutch, love. Thank you for that! Xo

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