CLIENT REQUIREMENTS

If you want to work with me, that means you are:

Curious: You are thoughtful. You have questions about yourself, your life path, and the world around you. You are not turned on by superficial, surface-level conversation; you like to go deeper.

Conscious: You are self-aware. You see yourself as a constant, ever-evolving work in progress. You enjoy thinking and talking about ideas and various ways of being. You might describe yourself as “spiritual” or simply “open”.

Creative: You like to engage with the world around you. You believe life is an interactive, participatory experience. You see yourself as being of value and having a unique purpose.

Committed: You are a woman or man of your word. When you commit to something, you see it through.

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 You will not be this version of you for always, so try to make peace with what you can. It's so easy to point out what isn't working in our lives and in ourselves, but it's hard to remember that it's just this way for now. And the more you can have patience with yourself, the faster you'll find relief. Having some compassion (even a sliver!) for the parts of you that feel stuck or resistant to change will help then come around. Cause they will. Have faith, boo. #alwayschanging #everevolving #peoplearenotfinishedproducts  As a former MONSTER procrastinator, sometimes I still have to remind myself of this delightful fact. Good reminder the Sunday night before tax week... BIG YAY TO ANOTHER WEEK ROLLIN' OUT! Another chance to kick some new ass and take a few more names. Git 'er dun. I promise it feels better than avoidance. Proooomise. •ps• I unpack this #lifemantra a bit more in my story too. Watch if you get stuck in the grip of procrastination. (Cause don't we all sometimes?? Yowza.) Xx  I've had a lot of people ask me lately why I'm so big on clarifying standards, boundaries, and preferences when it comes to meeting dudes and finding that good good lovin'. 🤔 Should we really be out there dating with such specific hopes of what we'll find? Isn't it awfully unromantic, and even risky, to have a set list of guidelines for what we're looking for?? ⠀ In my opinion (and experience) it's a helluva lot riskier to be seriously dating WITHOUT clear knowledge and understanding of what you're looking for. If you don't know what you want, or what's okay with you & not okay with you relationship and partner-wise, you'll be willing to settle for much less. Simply because it's there, and it's good enough, and it's better than nothing. (HINT: It eventually won't be.)⠀ I liken having high standards and specific preferences to someone who sets a very high bar for the quality of food they consume. If you clearly commit to an organic, whole food, clean 'n green kinda lifestyle, you're not going to make pit stops at McDonald's on the way home. Because you know it won't satisfy or make you feel good. It will rot your insides and won't agree with you. And you know you want fueling, fulfilling, feel-good yummies that energize and sustain you. That's what super high quality living (and loving!!) is all about, right?⠀ Too many people are willing to participate in the romantic equivalent of pit-stop-McDonald's (i.e. it's here, it's good enough, it's better than nothing), simply because they haven't committed to clarifying or raising their standards. And when they're left feeling dissatisfied, still hungry, and painfully out of sync, THEY WONDER WHY. Welllll, cause ya gotta know what works for you and just ooown it. And until you do? You'll likely be willing to survive, but not thrive, on a lot less. ⠀ ps. This post feels a tad harder and harsher than I intended, so just know I think you're awesome and love you boatloads. Also a little McFlurry every now and again never hurt nobody...❤️  Oh dear. So true. So impossible to resist. COMPLICATED THINGS.⠀ For a thoughtful, sensitive, sometimes anxious mind, "complicated" is like crack. So much to unpack and unravel. So many details to consider! Endless potential outcomes...it's like really juicy, flavor-bursting gum for your sweet, smart, chewy brain. ⠀ Unfortunately, ultimately, usually...the chewing leads to suffering. The COMPLICATED-ness proves to be untangle-able. Which is so hard to accept and so painful to let go of. Because we invested time and energy. We felt feelings. Real ones. We let ourselves get caught up in the joyous possibilities of what could be instead of sitting with and fully recognizing the overtly complicated reality. ⠀ If something is already complicated before it's even gotten going, I invite you to consider what is so damn appealing about it. Because love CAN be easy. It CAN be simple. It can not be a struggle or a source of stress. In the best of circumstances, it actually will be those things. But if we keep getting attracted to (and saying YES to) Captain Complicated, we evade ease and simplicity. And that might be a sign that it's time to let it go, sister. Oof, I know. ❤️  It is so beyond okay to not know. It's a given, actually. And when we allow ourselves to take some gentle time in that space of "not knowing", and to calmly sit in uncertainty, and slowly suss things out for ourselves, we tend to do much better. We also feel much better. We learn to let situations resolve themselves, and do not force things that should not be. So be patient. Go easy. You're still figuring it out. We all are. 🤗 •ps• The new #mantramonday episode is LIVE right meow! So excited to be kickstarting the series again; make sure to click the link in my bio to watch.  Think about it - if a swell of discomfort, negativity, or shitty feelings arise when you witness a lovey couple posing for a selfie together, or your friends find love before your do, or you see 2 cute humans kissing goodbye on their morning commute...if you CAN'T STAND THEM, if you wish they would get over each other and GET A ROOM ALREADY, if you find them annoying...why would you want, or allow yourself, to become them? I'll put this in another context, to clarify. For a long time I carried heavy judgment and negatively towards wealthy people. I labeled them greedy, shallow, selfish, whatever. So when it came to expanding my income and wanting to make more money, I bumped up against allllll kinds of mental and emotional trouble spots. Cause why would I want to become something (financially comfortable or even abundant) if that equated to me being all those negative things I loathe (shallow, selfish, shitty). I had an UPPER LIMIT PROBLEM. I was unconsciously sabotaging my own income. If more money meant being a bad person, I couldn't make more money cause then I WOULD BE A BAD PERSON. Wickity-wack! Right?? Many people have an UPPER LIMIT LOVE PROBLEM. They throw shade at happily married couples and convince themselves those two can't possibly be that happy. They look at pics of engagement announcements online and roll their eyes in inward protest. They hate seeing PDA's, because uggggh just stoppppppp. But if you WANT IT, you need to CELEBRATE IT. You need to feel at peace with it, at minimum. This is where coaching work is so powerful, because it's really hard to spot these unconscious "upper limiting" beliefs on your own, but trust me - IT IS WORTH IT. Cause when you start acknowledging and dissolving that stuff? You feel a lot more open, appreciative, and in alignment with what you actually do want. Which is love, yo. So get up to speed with yourself! ❤️  If you think you can receive romantic love, experience romantic love, and offer romantic love, without having to take some risks...ohh child. You dreamin'. Which is ADORBS. Love REQUIRES leaps! And taking risks and chances. And duh, that is hella nerve-racking because we are smart, and this ain't our first rodeo, and we know we might get very hurt, and we can totally hurt others. And realistically, we will probably BOTH. But please remember that the greatest risk in life is no risk at all. Remaining in your bubble, playing it safe and small and not saying YES to people, experiences, feelings, opportunities, oh sweetness. What kind of life is that? Taking little leaps in the direction of love, intimacy, and increased visibility (and vulnerability) is where allllll the good stuff happens. And when we mentally and emotionally sack up to that fact, and stop pretending that spending 24/7 in our "comfort zones" is in any way comfortable, love is more likely to find a way in. And love wants in. She wants ALL IN. She wants you to say YES to yourself, and to life, and to opportunity, a lot more. She wants you to honor your nature and your desires and show up and be bold and unapologetic and (as best you can) unafraid. She knows the reward is worth the risk. Do you? START KNOWING IT! #letlovein #taketherisk #getoutyourway  We're trained to dumb down and tune out and do as we're told. All of us. From a really young age. And it takes a lot of effort and trust and powerful intent to tune back in and learn to follow your enthusiasm. To perk up and take note when you catch yourself getting excited about something, or feeling even slightly inspired, or a hair more motivated. To pursue the things that stir your soul and jazz you up a little bit. Society wants you get to get sleepy. Life wants you to stay awake. So she'll show you things and art and music to make you feel stuff. And she'll bring you people and events and experiences that act as personal alarm clocks that blare HEY, SNAP OUT OF IT, GET EXCITED, YOU'RE ALIVE. And despite what you've been told and trained to do, you really shouldn't hit snooze on that stuff. You really shouldn't act like sleepy is satisfying. Because it's not. Take 2 minutes today to write down 10 things that make you feel a little more awake/enthusiastic/curious/excited. 10 things. Any things. And claim them. These things are not frivolous. They are not illegitimate, or a waste of time. These things are life force. They're like sunlight and oxygen and Red Bull for your being. They're fucking essential. Answer their call. Claim them. And DRINK. UP. #chugalug #payattention #wakeup #yes  Arguably the biggest shift one can make relationship-wise is to stop seeing heartache or heartbreak as pure loss. Does it hurt? Of course. Do we hate it? Typically. Can it still be profoundly helpful? HELL YES. You will be forced to root into new stories and beliefs about yourself. You'll have to revise your priorities and chart a new course. You'll need to face and be with yourself (something many of us use relationships to avoid) in a deeply intimate, uncomfortable, but important new way. My biggest breakthroughs and major life changes have always come on the other side of being absolutely railroaded and screwed in some capacity. I didn't ask for the hurt, but I got heaps of it. And while gratitude and learning might be a lot to reach for right away, eventually seeing how that loss or pain paved the way for new greatness is fucking magical. I don't know how else to describe it. It's up to you. You get to choose. All bad? Or is something potentially positive going to come out of the wreckage? Choose the latter. It usually feels better. Just sayin'. #nomudnolotus #youknowthis #yes   Waaaaay too real/inappropriate/ridiculous to not share.  Shout out to anyone else who has a pretty INTENSE relationship with their emotional side...just know you're in good company! #allthefeels  I've always had a flare for the over-dramatic. In relationships of yester-year I used to pick fights, stir up unnecessary drama, find little ways to pick and poke and prod my partner to get a reaction. It was UGLY. And UNFAIR. And I was totally blind to it. Then a really wonderful guy called me on it. A lot. And told me he loved me but wasn't willing to put up with my BS if I wasn't willing to work on it. So I got into therapy ( for good therapy) and started reeeeeally looking at myself. Noticing my habits, my patterns, my cues, examining why I liked being a bitch sometimes to the people I love the most. Taking ownership instead of passing the buck, or letting it continue to play out. That relationship ultimately ended but it was MASSIVELY healing for me. It forced me to look at the most confused, backwards, ugly parts of myself and rewire that shit. Now I cant believe there were moments where I would purposefully push another's buttons just to get a rise out of him and maybe guarantee some extra (albeit unhealthy) attention. I used to get embarrassed about those habits, but now I feel like a boss for working through it and saying YES to awareness and growth. Because noticing what you're doing that's getting in the way of the life you want, and the things you want, and the person you want to be, is HARD but SO IMPORTANT. And relationships are one area that will really shine a flashlight on all of your flaws and insecurities, so don't ignore what comes up for you. If you catch yourself (or you're lucky enough to have someone else lovingly catch you) playing into bad habits, get curious. Don't condemn yourself, or continue the cycle. But notice. And start working on it, either on your own or with a trusted professional. This is how change happens. This is how good stuff gets going. And old, stupid, tired BS gets kicked to the curb. I promise you--it's worth it.  TRUTH TRUTH TRUTH TRUTH TRUTH TRUTH . Happy Friday, you lovely weirdos.  We might love the black and white idea of choices breaking up into neat 'n clean little piles of HELL YES's and HELL NO's...but life is anything but black and white--have you noticed? If I only said yes to the stuff I felt 100%, HELL YES on-board with in my life (whether it be in love, in business, in what to eat for dinner some nights), I'd be a fucking sitting duck. I'd be twiddling my thumbs instead of making the necessary decisions and moving forward even though I wasn't completely sure. Sometimes a HELL MAYBE needs to be enough. Sometimes just feeling a slight tug to move in a new direction, or the tiniest inkling that you should maaaaybe give that thing/person/experience a try....sometimes that's all that you're gonna get. And it's ok to not be sure, and choose anyway. It's fine to remember that you're allowed to roll the dice, you're allowed to take the risk, you're allowed to change your mind, to make mistakes and recover and reroute. That is LIFE. Investing in the small-minded principle that there are designated goods and bads, rights and wrongs, hell yes's and no's--that's a tough spot to be in babe. I don't find that life shows up in that way for most of us. So if you've been waiting for a lightning bolt of HELL YES to come crashing through the clouds so you can finally give yourself permission to make that decision and move forward, keep waiting. But if you just need some permission to move forward anyway, without being 100% sure, it's yours. Consider this your sign. Hell maybe, indeed.
 

CONTACT

Time to be totally upfront and honest. When it comes to contact, you need to know that I love getting emails from you. LOVE IT.

 

I am obsessed with learning about you, your story, your triumphs, your struggles, hearing how my videos and blog posts have altered your world over the years. Your e-letters and outpourings of appreciation mean more to me than I can possibly describe. With that said…

Even though I read through (and deeply appreciate!) every email you send, due to the volume of messages I receive on a daily basis I cannot respond to everything. And to be completely upfront and honest, I do not offer advice via email.

 

I have found that far too much can be misinterpreted through the written word, and I would have to know so much more about you and your situation before I could possibly extend guidance. The last thing I want is to offer you some stock, boxed wisdom that sends you in the wrong direction.

 

Now that that’s out of the way – if you have questions about working with me, a burning video request, or want to share something personal that’s intended for my eyes only, you can email me at amy@amyyoungcoaching.com. I will always respond when I can!

 

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