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Cause when you're hungry/lonely/lost, everyone starts to look sorta delicious. :: Maybe you know that you have a tendency to go for the unavailable guy, or the emotionally shut down dude, and it usually leads to heartache. Maybe you know that you have a bad habit of trying to fix people, or save people, and it just doesn't work out in the long run. Maybe you know you need a kind, thoughtful, reeeally good listener, but dammit--those self-absorbed, cocky fellas just GETCHA EVERY TIME! :: Please, please, please: Do not forget what you know. Do not let your patterns or persuasions get the best of you, and keep you straying off the path of what know you want, or what you know you need. ⠀ :: And if you DON'T know? Simply start discovering and deciding. Look at past relationship experiences and identify what didn't work. Work with a coach, or a therapist, and get clear on what you want, and what you know works or doesn't work for you relationship-wise. Start declaring what you know to yourself, and to others. "I can't get involved with someone who is unavailable--emotionally, geographically, or otherwise. I can't. I know this." :: The more honest you are with yourself (and others) about your own self-knowledge, the easier it is to avoid the same unhappy patterns or sad relationship cycles. So do not forget it. Write it down. Do whatever it takes to remind yourself! Just remember what you know. • • • #ChooseHappiness #AttitudeOfGratitude #ParadigmShift #PowerOfPositivity #LiveToTheFullest #PositivePsychology #CreateYourOwnHappiness #WellnessCoaches #MindsetCoach #MindsetShift #WellnessCoaching #OnTheBlog #WomenInBusiness #CommunityOverCompetition #CreativeEntrepreneur #WorkLifeBalance #HandsAndHustle #WomenInBiz #RelationshipAdvice #SavvyBusinessOwner #CalledToCreate #WomenOwnedBusiness #DontQuitYourDayDream #InspirationalQuote #relationshipgoals  WHOA. DEEPNESS. DEPTHNESS. Truth talk.  Right?! ⠀ ::⠀ Everything is weather. Feelings, moods, states of mind, PMS symptoms, seasons, relationships, bank account balances, job titles, personal identities, hair lengths, hair colors, hair being there at all, hair showing up when you least expect it in the least expecting places--LIFE IS ONE TRANSIENT MFer. We have to get used to it. We have to get comfortable weathering our often strange storms.⠀ ::⠀ When we get caught up in day-to-day dramas, or get sucked into painful patterns of doomsday thoughts and feelings, WE ASSUME THE ROLE OF CLOUDS. We forget that we are here, and we will continue to be here, and we will be okay, and we will snap out of it, and survive, and thriiive, dammit. Humans are resilient. We bounce back. But we often forget that.⠀ ::⠀ Instead, we imagine that "this is it" or "these feelings are forever" or "it will never get better". We get confused! Cause listen--that's the weather talking. And as Queen Pema slam dunks in the quote above: You are not the weather! You are not clouds or rain or sunshine. You are the eternal crystal azure blue stretch of forever that those clouds get to hang out in sometimes. Lucky them.⠀ ::⠀ We help ourselves handle patches of cloud and crappy weather (aka: deal with challenges, and reclaim our SKY-NESS) when we recognize that we've already been through some tough stuff, survived big, scary, weather-y things, and that we are stronger and smarter for it. When we rest in our resilience, and trust that the damn sun will rise again. Recognize the challenge, the struggle, the pain, the WEATHER, but do not think that you ARE the challenge, the struggle, the pain. You're above that shit. Let it roll through you, cast shadows, and move on. ☀️ • • • #Coaching #Mindfulness #LifeCoach #PersonalDevelopment #LoveTheLifeYouLive #WellnessCoach #SelfDevelopment #PositiveMindset #BusinessCoach #VibrateHigher #OnlineCreator #BusinessCoach #WomenSupportingWomen #PersonalDevelopmentCoach #HappinessCoach #WellbeingCoach #TheGirlGang #MakersGonnaMake #FemaleEntrepreneur #MyCreativeBiz #RelationshipCoach #LoveCoach #MotivationalQuote #PursuePretty #FindItLiveIt  Something I've really loved about sharing The Self-Love Trifecta all week is it's made me think about all of the ways in which loving myself has completely changed and shaped my life. :: Before I got really good at listening to myself, taking care of myself, and honoring myself in healthy, caring ways, I felt kinda nuts. I was always looking for someone else, or something else, to fulfill me. I drove relationships into the ground because I craved love and attention so badly, NO ONE could meet my needs. My insecurities and feelings of unworthiness were hijacking my whole system. I drank a lot to avoid feeling things. I spent a lot of time with people who weren't that supportive or encouraging of me (or themselves), because we matched. I criticized myself so much that I wasn't even aware of it. I thought telling myself was lazy was helpful, because maybe it would motivate me to be better. Spoiler alert: it didn't. :: Learning how to love myself in conscious, concrete ways absolutely SAVED ME. It made it possible for me to go after my dreams, pursue healthy partnerships, and be my authentic self, both in my everyday life and to millions of people on the internet. It was THE game-changer. And for the longest time I was completely without it; those were dark fucking years. I don't wish that kind of existence on anyone, but I know it's painfully familiar to so many of us. :: This coaching program is so important to me because I want women everywhere to start loving themselves so their insecurities and unworthiness aren't running the show. I want you to look at yourself in the mirror and really, radically like what you see. I want you to enjoy your own company and create loving relationships that match how good, kind, and unabashedly worthy you are. :: The link to join The Trifecta is in my bio, for anyone who's so over the dark years. Anyone who's looking for concrete, conscious steps to light their own self-love journey. Our first live call is next Tuesday, August 8th, and I'm so eager to begin this work with so many of you. Thank you for letting me share my story, and use what I've learned to assist others. This life is SO GOOD. ❤️  Learning to speak to, and relate to ourselves in supportive, encouraging ways can feel like a pretty foreign friggin concept (unfortunately). Especially for those of us verrry interested in personal development, switching gears to acceptance and approval can feel almost risky...if I'm not riding my own ass all the time, or "keeping myself in line", what will happen? :: Answer: Lots of wonderful things. For one, you'll feel more INSPIRED to show up how you want to when you're not in fear of being criticized (by yourself). You'll stop feeling so pulled into situations or experiences where your worth or value is questioned, because you'll have a more concrete foundation of self-validation and appreciation streaming through you. You'll have an easier time saying "no," saying "yes," and paying attention to your needs, plus honoring your wants. 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NOR is it: "You must keep loving me and showing up for me in order for me to be okay with myself." :: One of the hardest things about relationships is that we will never get to choose who stays and who goes. We do not get to decide how long someone can or will love us, and we are not good, caring partners to others or OURSELVES when we make their choice to leave, or unwillingness to stay all about us. If someone cannot stay, if they have to go, if they are choosing something or someone else, please let them. Please choose yourself. Choose to watch them walk away, and know that they are leaving behind someone WONDERFUL (you!), and grant them the freedom to discover that on their own. Be glad that you still have you, and that there will be others who love you even better than you imagined possible. :: When someone leaves we have to practice saying, "Thank you for making space for an even richer, deeper experience of love and partnership. Both with myself, and the next lucky son-of-a-gun."  Hallelujah. Amen. Over and out. #love #relationshipquotes #iyanlavanzant #iyanlafixmylife #partnership #chooseyourself #marriage #romance #self #coaching #inspiration #strength #power #respect #truth #heartbreak #chooseyourself  A #mantramonday of sorts...For when you get caught in the stoopid dance of "OH NO DID I SAY/DO/TEXT/IMPLY THE WRONG THING AND NOW THEY WILL NEVER LOVE ME/CHOOSE ME/TEXT ME BACK?!" Golly gee, it's exhausting just thinking about. 🤦‍♀️ And we've all been there, haven't we? :: Here's what we're missing in those moments: In relationships that really work, with the really right people for you, at the right time, and under the right circumstances, you can "mess up" in a lot of ways and it will still work. You can say the wrong thing and the right person will find it charming. You can be super needy and the right person will find it refreshing that you're so comfortable asking for what you want. 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Are you giving yourself credit?? :: Let's be real: Most of us are not. Most of us treat ourselves like scabs that supposedly aren't doing a good job of healing. We examine ourselves, and pick at ourselves, and check up on ourselves over and over, and give ourself a jank score as a human based on how imperfect we are. At least compared to that gorgeous, trendy, always smiling, cellulite-free angel of bikini-clad perfection we follow on IG. :: Baaaaarf, team. Barf forever. Can you let yourself BE for a moment and just enjoy your own company? Frowns, cellulite, and all? It is so fine to take a break from the self-improvement and indulge in some self-enjoyment. It's so good. It's so necessary. So let's make it a new practice. :: What can you take a moment to appreciate about yourself today?? Tell me in the comments. I want to high five your heart.   Ohhh the patience pill can be a very tough one to swallow. I love this quote because it invites us to remember that our idea of the "right timing" isn't always quite right, is it?⠀ • If we can get a little more comfy with the idea that even though we can't SEE IT, things are still happening, pieces are falling into place, and people are becoming who they need to be separate from us, before they can be joined with us! Can you lean into that? That there is divine timing and serendipity and kismet and all of that good stuff, and it might not look anything like you expect it to? 🤔 • That means you get to use this time to your advantage, and take care of whatever business/fun/relaxation/inspiration you want to before the right thing, the right person, or the right situation unfolds before your very eyeballs. Trust it, babe. It'll at least take the edge off.  In 2010 I reluctantly went on on a few dates with a nice fella, solely as a favor to a coworker. ⠀ She kept telling me how great he was, and I kept telling her (and myself) that he was all wrong for me, super boring, way too Wally Clever/goody-two-shoes. Ick. Not "my type".  Boy, did he prove me wrong. Especially on our second date, when he called me out on my snap judgment of him. He declared my prejudice towards "the nice guy" shitty and unattractive, and I was instantly both embarrassed and enlightened.⠀ We invent stories about people to keep us "safe", aka in the land of the familiar (even if the familiar sucks), and these stories and beliefs are some of the most limiting lies we can buy into. Much to my surprise, I fell in love with Mr. Goody-Two-Shoes. And he continued to challenge me, inspire me, and love me in a way I didn't even know someone could. When we eventually went our separate ways, I thanked him for showing me that people can be much more than we believe them to be. And I thanked myself for giving him a real chance.⠀ Let someone prove you wrong. Challenge yourself to stay open, even when parts of you want to arbitrarily shut something down. Because nobody likes being judged, and you never know where it could lead.  When women ask me things like, "Why does this guy mistreat me/disappoint me/let me down so much??" my first response is almost always: I DUNNO BUT WHY DO YOU LET HIM, SISTER?!⠀ • We determine the standard of treatment (and quality of human) we allow into our lives. You are responsible for teaching people how to treat you. Yeah -- that's a damn Dr. Phil quote. You know I'm desperate to make a point hit home when I'm quoting DP. • While it might not feel easy to break things off with someone you've grown attached to for all the wrong reasons, it's 10,000x harder to keep betraying yourself and tolerating BS in the long run. Not to mention, youdeservebetter. I know this! You know this. And honestly, he likely knows it to. So let him go, let him go, let him go now. Make room for someone who doesn't make you stress, suffer, or sacrifice yourself. Pretty puh-lease. Cause your love life shouldn't feel like goddamn circus. 🤡 • ps. This quote was pulled from a blog-style email I sent to my web subscribers last week, and so many of you replied that it was just what you needed to hear! (I get that a lot ) Click the link in my profile if you want to sign up to get email check-ins from me on all things life & love.   Some of my favorite words from one of my favorite writers/thinkers/feelers out there. If you're not reading @thecut column #AskPolly every week WHAT ARE YOU DOING, BABE?! Any other fans?? I promise you'll love her.   Sometimes when I'm caught in the human trap of future-prediction and anxious thinking I pause and imagine THE WORST POSSIBLE OUTCOME.  • Then I recognize that even if the worst thing ever happened, I would still be okay. The sun would manage to rise. My heart would keep beating. 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What to Do About That Horrible Voice in Your Head Telling You that You Suck Sometimes (or All the Time!)

What to Do About That Horrible Voice in Your Head Telling You that You Suck Sometimes (or All the Time!)

I talk a lot about the “voices in our heads” over on my YouTube channel, and sometimes I think I sound like a crazy person, but then I remember—Ohh riiiight, we’re all crazy people.

Because most internal human dialogue is pretty wacky ‘n weird. Even if it’s not anxiety-ridden or pain-producing, hell, it’s still fascinating to examine.

I’m staying at an AirBnB right now and I had to message my host to ask if she had “an extra large towel”, meaning “a second full-size towel”, but as soon as I hit SEND I realized she might think I’m asking for a hugely enormous XL towel because I worded it poorly, and what if she thinks I’m some kind of spoiled princess who only uses giant luxe towels? And will she then be annoyed by such a dumb request? Will she give me a bad review on AirBnB?? Couldn’t I just be satisfied with the one stupid towel she gave me?!

SPOILER ALERT: She brought over some extra towels and it wasn’t a big deal. Duh.

But the MIND. THE MIND IS STRANGE.

When I’m working with clients, and we’re knee-deep in some weird, winding, mind mucky-muck, and they’ve convinced themselves that they’re annoying, or that they suck on some level, or they’re lazy and unlovable, or jeez–they can’t stop comparing themselves to to their cousin Beatrice who just has all of her shit together, I have to remind them that these thoughts, that internal voice, those words and feelings and stories they hear inside are just that—stories.

And sure, they might be stories they’ve repeated to themselves so many times that they just don’t question them anymore, but that doesn’t make a story true. I could tell you the story of Rumpel-fuckin-Stiltsken every hour, on the hour for fifteen years, but that doesn’t make Rumpelstiltskin a real dude.

YOUR MIND IS JUST TELLING YOU A BUNCH OF INTERESTING AND SOMETIMES SHITTY STORIES.

The stuff we hear in our heads is like different channels playing on a TV set. Or records that can be put on or taken off a record player. Or movies being projected on a giant IMAX-sized screen in your highly creative, prone-to-worry, often anxious mind.

And I hear you when you proclaim, “But this voice in my head is really loud! This voice is really mean! This voice is the only voice I ever hear and it’s telling me awful things, and it has been for years!”

And I need you to think about it in this context: “Man, this TV channel really sucks! This channel plays all the time! It’s awful and scary and I hate the programming!”

Babe. Find the remote. Turn that shit off.

“I’ve tried! I lost the remote a long time ago! Or no one ever gave me a remote in the first place!”

Okay. Here’s what you can actively practice and commit to when your mind-channels are outta control and  need to be turned the fuck off. Or at least muted for a little while so you can relax for just like a minute.

 1) Label and call out the damn channel.

This is the most brilliant-est step one: Just notice what channel is playing.

It might feel like you have a lot of different noise going on up there, but there are usually only a few messages that continuously play out on repeat for each of us. Get clear and specific about what the message is.

Some painful but popular internal narratives/“mind channels” are:

  • You’re not good enough.
  • Your future is fucked.
  • Bad things are going to happen.
  • Bad things have already happened.
  • Everyone is thinking terrible things about you.

Ugh ugh ugh. Premium cable say what? THESE CHANNELS ARE AWFUL BASIC ACCESS THAT WE GOTTA STOP WATCHING.

When your mind begins spontaneously going over the details of what happened at yesterday’s meeting, and you’re remembering what you said, and the look that Beth gave Claire as you spoke, and you imagine how they went to the break room and laughed about you afterwards—PAUSE, NOTICE, AND LABEL IT.

“Ohhh – the ‘everyone is thinking terrible things about me’ channel is playing! We’ve watched this one before! This episode sucks!”

There is so much psychological research and evidence in support of the theory that simply labeling your internal experience (thoughts, feelings, etc…) helps to regulate and decrease the hold it has on you. I encourage you to test this theory out for yourself and have a little at-home experiment. Make some popcorn and tune into the mind-movie. Review it. Do you wanna keep watching? Decide.

2) Try giving your attention to literally ANYTHING ELSE.

If there’s a TV on at the restaurant you’re eating dinner at, does that mean that you have to watch it? Just because it’s on? Because it’s situated over your table, or in your line of sight?

Could you pay attention to your food? Could you pay attention to your friend eating dinner with you? Could you get out a book and start reading?

You do not have to keep your eyes glued to a TV set just because it’s on, and you do not have to keep your attention glued to your mind just because it’s telling you mean, terrible things. I would strongly advise you to turn your attention away from your mind when it is telling you mean, terrible things. There is no good information being delivered to you at that point.

If you really can’t change the channel, or can’t turn the TV off, distract yourself with anything else. Interrupt your mindless viewing and shift your attention elsewhere. Math problems. Counting the hairs on your left arm Noticing the variance in temperature between your two feet. Poetry. Prayer. Remembering every character from “Harry Potter” and what Hogwarts house he or she was in. The options are limitless. Practice shifting focus.

3) How about playing producer and introducing some brand new channels!

So listen, this metaphor only goes so deep. Because if there is an actual, physical TV implanted in the wall and it’s on at full volume all the time, unless you take a sledgehammer to that puppy it’s gonna stay there, stay on, and keep showing you whatever’s playing that afternoon.

But this is YOUR MIND we’re talking about. What plays in your mind is actually up to you. You run the network. And your mind is highly suggestible. You might not be used to suggesting new thoughts and content to your mind, but trust me, your mind is a malleable motherfucker. How do I know this?

If you were lying in bed in the midst of a painful, self-degrading meltdown and I walked into your room shrieking, “Justin Timberlake is down the street giving a free concert!!” you better believe your self-degrading meltdown would be put on pause.

If you are entrenched in worry and then happen to notice a $100 bill on the ground – BOOM – suddenly your worries aren’t the primary focus anymore. Get. That. Money.

If you’re over-wrought with anxiety and receive notice that there’s a stampede of miniature ponies trucking through your backyard, you’re gonna go to a window and check out the damn ponies.

The reality is that most of us never suggest new, creative, enticing alternatives to our minds. We’ve bought into this idea that MY MIND IS MY MIND AND IT SAYS WHAT IT SAYS AND I MUST LISTEN TO IT AND I AM ZOMBIE MUST FOLLOW MIIIIND…

I call bullshit! Play with your mind!

Imagine situations that would or could jog you out of your meltdowns and worries (I suggest making them extreme, enticing, and/or hilarious), and call upon them whenever you can. Get creative. Use your imagination. Thinking about stampedes of miniature ponies is much more useful and enjoyable than thinking about how you should’ve chosen a different major in college, trust me.

Above all else, know this:

You are not alone. You are so far from alone. I know what it’s like to feel like you and your mind are at war. That you can’t turn off the mean-bad-bad thoughts, that you’ll never be able to change the damn channel that feels like it’s been on for an eternity.

And I promise you, I PROMISE YOU, it can be different. It can get so much better. Those thoughts and stories and feelings can (and want to) loosen their grip on you. You don’t have to tune into shitty programming whether it’s on VH1, Lifetime, or inside your own brilliant head.

Check the metaphorical couch cushions. Find some version of a mental remote control. Get a little more selective about what you’re watching, call it out, shift your focus, and introduce some new programming. The more you do it, the easier it gets. And the easier it gets, the more you’ll want to do it. So go. Start practicing. NOW!

18 Comments
  • JENNIFER SCHMELING
    Posted at 01:40h, 26 January Reply

    THIS SPOKE RIGHT TO MY SOUL! THANK YOU FOR THE TOOLS!

    • Amy
      Posted at 05:41h, 26 January Reply

      Wuhoo! You’re SO welcome! 🙂

  • cagla cetin
    Posted at 02:02h, 26 January Reply

    Thank you Amy, i read twice and i was nearly crying. i know the step one. exactly i know the channels (so many channel altogether), i tried to distract myself reading Nietzsche. But i came a point where i could do nothing and started ‘all day laying’. But i will try again, step two and three. Maybe i will not be super confident but i will be better..to live in a cruel world. Thank you <3

    • Amy
      Posted at 05:41h, 26 January Reply

      Keep working at it, beautiful. It can take time, but then sometimes something just clicks. Thank you for reading.

  • Patricia I.
    Posted at 02:09h, 26 January Reply

    Amy, Amt, Amy… I cannot stress enough how helpful you are, not leaaaast to say with the word choice and explanations in this post. I too suffer from time to time from anxiety and depression, even now while I’m on study leave, but this was just God sent. Seriously, I’ve read articles, forums abs books before about all kinds of stuff, but this hit me right in the mind and heart. I no longer feel crazy! And alone! And I really want to thank you for this and wish to inspire you to spill your guts out with more of this you! ❤ Lots of love and best wishes/Paty

    • Amy
      Posted at 05:40h, 26 January Reply

      You are neither crazy nor alone! Sending you lots of love back. So thrilled you found this helpful. HUGS.

  • Jade K.
    Posted at 02:13h, 26 January Reply

    Thank you so much for this post! I recently realized that I tend to over analyze even the simplest of things and assume the worst, which is really unhealthy because it brings me down so much.

    After reading this post, I tried focusing on something else/tuning to “another channel” and it has helped so so much.

    Please keep the awesome blog posts coming xx

    • Amy
      Posted at 05:39h, 26 January Reply

      I’m so happy this helped! It’s good to have a handful of tools to turn to when we get caught in over-thinking/anxious mode. <3

  • Cortney Lamb
    Posted at 02:30h, 26 January Reply

    Guuuuurl… My love runs DEEP after this post! I am the Mayor of Overanalyze-ville and it sucks balls. After seven months it’s “does he like me still?” “are we still exclusive?” “Why won’t he DTR?” “Am I ugly?!”
    For real… I need to throw out the whole fucking TV!!

    • Amy
      Posted at 05:20h, 26 January Reply

      COURTNEY. “I need to throw out the whole fucking TV!!” I DIED. Ha!

      And I feel you girl! Tune that junk out. It will never help! Analysis is great but over-analysis is misery. Sending you love. Adoring your awareness and humor.

  • Paige @ Healthy Hits the Spot
    Posted at 05:06h, 26 January Reply

    AMEZ. This is such a great post! I love your metaphors. You’re the best at them! I love how you related this to watching TV and changing channels! SO HELPFUL. Love you!

    • Amy
      Posted at 05:24h, 26 January Reply

      Paaaige thank you beautiful. Love you MORE!

  • Elisabeth
    Posted at 07:07h, 26 January Reply

    Loved the TV channel comparison! You truly have a gift of speaking straight into the soul. Thank you for making us all feel a bit more human and sane today.

  • Brad
    Posted at 08:57h, 26 January Reply

    Even though you gear your brand toward women, I love your content and feel it always applies across gender lines. Everything in this blog post speaks true, especially to someone like me who is blessed with social anxiety issues.

  • Jenny
    Posted at 09:28h, 26 January Reply

    Fantastic advice. You’re brilliant. I’m reading about mindfulness at the moment and this ties in with it. Thank you. I over analyze to the max.

  • Pat Sykora
    Posted at 18:35h, 26 January Reply

    you inspire me….love ya!

  • Arushi Jain
    Posted at 17:09h, 30 January Reply

    You’ve literally made me really positive in life!…..everything you say just so clicks in my head❤Keep inspiring us all. Much love💋.

  • Laura Sanz
    Posted at 18:16h, 07 February Reply

    Amy, thank you very much for this post. Recently I’ve been going through a hard time because of this and I can tell you that you made it so much easier for me to understand that I can change that. God bless you and I hope you keep inspiring others to change their point of view about our minds. I read you from Colombia 🇨🇴

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